The Huffington Post ran the following August 31 article headline: “Paul Stam, North Carolina GOP Representative: Gay Marriage Leads To Polygamy, Incest.”
In the debate over same-sex unions, officially called “gay marriage,” I noticed that gays seem offended that their lifestyle would be associated with polygamy or incest. Comparing Gay Marriage to polygamy and incest is deemed unfair or ignorant or cruel. Being gay is apparently much more than just merely being homosexual. It seems to be a sexual identity community built upon a corporation of sexual leanings (Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, Asexual, etc). It would seem that this community has taken a moral stance on issues like polygamy, incest and pedophilia and placed themselves on a moral high ground.
I have to ask, though, what standard do they use? If comparing the gay way to polygamy and incest is unfair and unjust, then why? After all, polygamists can love each other as can a brother and sister, father and daughter or (the most likely outcome) mother and son? And isn’t equality for the sake of freedom and happiness the very thing gay activists fought for?
What offended gays forget is that they themselves rebelled against the traditional understanding of sex, that infamous Christian idea of “marriage,” enshrined as one man and one woman united monogamously for life for the purpose of procreation and social stability. Having thus rebelled and claimed equal footing for their own enshrined ideas on sex, they have little ground on which say that they are somehow “above” polygamy and incest.
Christians who still adhere to a biblical view of sex understand that once the gay community is accepted as equal, there is nothing to stop other sexual communities from demanding equal rights and recognition. This includes polygamists, incestual relations and pedophelia. I would say that adult-child sex will be the next community. Organizations like NAMBLA (North American Man-Boy Love Association) has been weak in their social presence, but reveal that the struggle for equality from the gay community has set a precedent.
On an interesting side note, as fervently as American society works to embrace gay marriage, it never succeeded in enshrining marital infidelity and divorce among heterosexuals as powerful political communities, though adultery and divorce are quietly tolerated. It was tried with such things as “open” marriages and feminist rights, but the reality of betrayal by a cheating spouse and the pain divorce visits on both the couple and the children have been sobering.
Perhaps gays believe that they can actually do marriage better than the Christian west, that they will never have problems with infidelity and divorce. That may be part of why they feel justified in distancing themselves from other potential sexual communities.