Dalrock, in his blog article, 40 years of ultimatums, writes that men have three choices in today’s feminist climate: voluntary celibacy, forced celibacy or unlimited sex with available young women. Interestingly, the apostle Paul faced the same issue over nineteen-hundred years ago:
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband (1 Corinthians 7:1-2 ESV).
Like today, sexual license and equality had completely confused and obscured traditional marriage. The male Christians who wrote Paul had reached the same tipping point that today has sparked the Men’s Rights Movement blogosphere. Paul’s response is a piece of wisdom giving the men the clarity they desperately needed.
Marriage under feminism is unjust for men. It calls men to settle down and take responsibility for a wife and family, limiting the choices they might otherwise have, while at the same time preserving womens’ right to unlimited choices, within and without the marriage. Men are bound to marriage by sacred vows and the threat of divine judgment through unanswered prayers (cf. Malachi 2:13-14; 1 Peter 3:7) while women are in the marriage solely by choice, any spoken vows standing only on the shifting sands of romantic sentiments.
Christian men dutifully take their marriage vows and meekly submit to their wife’s endless need for choice and liberation, fully aware that if things get too unhappy for her, divorce is an option for her and the law is on her side. Many men in the blogosphere have rejected Christianity because of its obsession with shaming men into such a marital arrangement.
Now not all marriages are like this, but the fundamental expectation of unbending male fidelity to female liberation is firmly in place in the church.
The feminist movement of the latter half of the twentieth century is nothing new. The destructive results are nothing new. What Christian men face today, Christian men faced almost two millennia ago.
Paul’s words of wisdom are needed more than ever.