To illustrate how feminism has entered the church and taken hold, the Christian has but to read the account of Joseph, wife of Mary, mother of Jesus, and transport the situation to modern day.
First, let’s recap.
Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly (Matthew 1:18-19 ESV).
Joseph’s fiance becomes pregnant before they are formally wed. Not knowing that the pregnancy was from God Himself, He did what a righteous, God-fearing man would have done with a fiance that had cheated on him. He decided to break the engagement.
I imagine that Mary’s explanations concerning angels and messiahs did not help to sooth his mind. He must of have thought his young bride-to-be was both a whore and insane. Here she was, promised to be his and he promised to be hers, and she is not only pregnant, proof that she slept with another man, but was declaring it was “God’s will.”
Joseph was a man whose loyalty to God came before his loyalty to his fiance. To marry a woman in violation of God’s standard of holiness would have been a gross violation of his faith and desire to follow God.
Now, let’s transpose this situation to modern day.
A Christian man is engaged to a Christian woman and they both have been chaste before marriage. It is discovered that she is pregnant from having sex with another man. His fiance swears up and down that despite the fact that she committed adultery, that in the end, the situation must be God’s will for their happiness. He decides that marrying her would be detrimental to his life as a Christian and his pursuit of whatever ministry he is seeking, so he breaks the engagement.
In times past, the Christian man would have been admired for standing for his faith and convictions and his fiancé would be criticized for cheating on him and then trying to justify her recklessness by invoking God.
In times present, the Christian man in the same situation is looked upon as pariah, a villain cruel and judgmental, for not accepting and forgiving his fiancé of her sexual “choice.” He is expected to “man up,” marry the woman, and then raise another man’s child as his own. There are numerous women who have not been chaste and who are single mothers. Christian men are expected to stay chaste until they marry and then accept these women as potentials brides.
That is what passes for “men’s ministry” in evangelical Christianity.
In Joseph’s day, he was a righteous man for his choice to break his engagement to Mary. Even God acknowledged his faithfulness by reassuring him that he was doing no wrong. However, women today who have sex outside of marriage are committing adultery, and violating God’s holiness. Invoking God to justify that sin makes the situation almost blasphemous.
Christian men who practice chastity and have their faith as a priority should not be required to accept unchaste women as options for their brides. While God does forgive sin, forgiveness is becoming a convenient screen for justifying women’s rebellion from the holiness of God. Men should not be required to bankroll that rebellion.
This is nothing new. Paul dealt with it in his day and the church is facing it in this day.
In church, Christian men need to find this …
And not this …